a lesson learned...

one lesson i've learned over the years...

careful of what and whom you judge...

We judge others character...

the spiritual fruit we may see in others...

others reactions to various circumstances...

among many other situations...

when i was younger, i judged the men i dated, and wanted to date. i always said i would never date anyone younger than me....

i married a man younger than me...

a friend of mine and i lost contact after graduation. a couple of years later, i got a call from this dear friend, and discovered that in the 2 months previous, she had gotten married, and then discovered she was pregnant.

by this point, i took things from my friends as they told me. I don't know if that's really how it was, or if she was pregnant when she got married. who am i to judge? who am i to really care?

a mutual friend and i were discussing this event. i expressed wanting to get her a gift for the baby, her new husband, etc...

she called this friend of mine a 'whore' and then a liar and said that she was not only pregnant when she got married, but she was hiding that fact by lying to everyone about it.

i said, 'that's my friend. i don't appreciate you talking about her like that. i don't know if it's true or not, but still."

last year, this mutual friend of mine (we're not very close and haven't been since) had a baby with no man in sight.

i want to say "what comes around, goes around," but the more Biblical phrase i would think would be "a man reaps what he sows." or "do not judge, and you will not be judged."